THE KEY TO HAPPINESS IS…
Do you have a key in your pockets? Bring it out or imagine holding one. Notice the intricate cuts or grooves. These grooves allow us to open a door, a car or any item where we keep our belonging or treasure. Now, that's exactly like life. The patterned door lock with its ups and downs is the reality of life and & each of us is the key. When we resist these grooves or cuts, we cannot fit and open the door to our treasure or own definition of happiness. These grooves can be achieved only through ACCEPTANCE.
Contest chair, ladies and gentlemen, ACCEPTANCE is the key to happiness. When we accept the reality of life, it teaches us 3 important virtues: faith, gratitude and humility which act as grooves to open the door to your lasting happiness.
Acceptance gives us the groove of faith. Have you ever felt empty despite having it all? That's because you can’t be truly happy unless you know the source of happiness. I was in 1st year High School when dad lost his job. Thinking that wealth and career were the sources of happiness, dad went into depression but mom stayed calm and accepting like a clear, blue sky behind thunderstorms. Curious, I asked my mother: “Where does your happiness come from?” She looked at me in the eye and her words opened the door to lasting happiness: “From accepting God. When you resist the reality of life, you put yourself on a pedestal higher than God. That is pride. You must let go of that. When you accept, you believe everything has a purpose, you accept God, you accept the source of happiness. In no time, I saw how my father became happy as he accepted the real source of happiness.
Last June, when the crisis in Qatar broke out, I, too, had to face my own crisis. I lost my job. At first, I resisted. Accepting is not easy. It hurts our ego. But when things get worse from resisting, we ask ourselves: what is ego for? Ego is not the reality. The reality is jobs are not permanent just like everything else in this world. And when something is lost, acceptance is there to shift our focus on the positive things, on our blessings & on the present. Acceptance gives us the groove of gratitude. Gratitude kept my spirit alive. And guess what, 2 weeks later, I landed a better job.
In life, there are things that are beyond our control and understanding like loss of job, natural disasters, circumstances, illness and death. Acceptance gives us not only faith & gratitude but humility to carry on with our lives. Arjay, a fellow public speaker at Filcom, was the most passionate member I know. He would willingly accept any meeting roles when nobody would volunteer. In my conversation with him, he said: “When life presents you opportunities and challenges, accept it. You may not live to see the fruit of it, but you can live every moment if your life in joy and happiness." Those were his words. Those were his last words. 3 days after our meeting, Arjay suffered from heart attack. My heart bled from immense sadness, but who am I complain? Who are we to question this reality of life? Elizabeth Lesser once said, “humility helps us accept death and accepting death allows us to choose life, to choose happiness.
What's in it for you, ladies and gentlemen? I want you to look into your own life. What are you resisting? How long have you been resisting the reality of life? Our realities and challenges may be different, but the feelings of depression, pride and loss are also but our realities. Will you let it control your happiness? Think about it. We all deserve to be happy and the good news is we hold the key. Acceptance is the key. When we accept, faith, gratitude and humility open the door to lasting happiness.